Tuesday, April 7, 2009

It's the little things.... Day 146 07APR09


Something happened this morning that hasn't occurred in a long time. Not in the last 145 days. Joshua came into our bedroom this morning and climbed up on the bed to cuddle with me for a minute. Truth be told he really came to ask me to make him some spaghetti, but it matters not. The fact is that since he was diagnosed those many long days ago he has not had the energy or desire to walk across the house to my side of the bed. He spent a scant few minutes telling me about what he did last night after I left to go teach. Then with an impish smile and a surprisingly acrobatic flip/roll he was gone. I was up and headed for the kitchen. I am sure they eat spaghetti for breakfast somewhere in the world.

I have come to discover that it is the little things that you cherish when your child has cancer. The little victories. The little moments. The sublime and usually unnoticed. These are the things that I carry around with me for days. The things that make me smile.

I think that your life is defined not by the big moments but by the little ones. They are the evidence of your influence in the world. The big things: we analyze; respond to; catalog; deal with. My proudest moments are not when I accomplish something, but when one of my children says or does something small and sometimes insignificant that screams out "I really was watching and learning from you." These are the moments I cherish.

Today is my Dad's birthday. I hope that through my life I have provided him with enough little moments. I certainly had a great example to learn from.

Joshua continues to do well. He has been much more active and certainly has a good appetite right now, especially if pasta is involved. We took him out grocery shopping with us today and it pretty much wore him out. He was really tired by the time we got back home. But after a little rest and some roasted chicken and spaghetti he was back in action until bedtime.

3 comments:

Jamie(Sister) said...

Day 146. =)Sooo you talked dad into having spaghetti for breakfast hu monkey butt..?? =) What another good day passing by and another day at home on that comfy couch. =)

I cant wait for those little moments to come. They are going to be great. =)
So grocery shopping for the first time in awhile... i bet you picked lots of popcorn. =)Well I love you Joshua and Easter is this Sunday! Easter egg hunts here comes Joshua ready to go. =)
Headed off to bed, we will see you this weekend k love bug.

XOXO LOVE JAMIE BELLA AND CHRISTIAN
PS Your niece is now hungry ; )

Nonna said...

Hey Snaggle Snuggle Monkey,

What a wonderful surprise for you to sneak into bed with your Dad. I can imagine his delight.

So happy to hear you are getting back to the familiar Joshua Warrior.

You tell your Dad for me that I would bank money on the fact that he has left lots of lasting beautiful moments for his Dad to savour.

Have a great day little man.

Tons of Love, Hugs and Kisses,

Nonna

Miss Laura said...

Josh, spaghetti for breakfast with lots of butter on it is a fantastic idea. Just like having pizza for breakfast sometimes. I used to eat chicken noodle soup for breakfast when I was a kid (tomato soup too). You look fantastic along side Jarrod and Christian on your birthday. It looks like you got everything that was on your list. I love the new Easter outfit with the vest.

We are sure you are awaiting a great weekend with your cousins and hunting for a few eggs.

As a parent and grandparent, the little things you mentioned, Lee, are the most important things in our lives. When one of the kids reminds me of some little thing that we did together it is the most touching thing in life.

Renee, we are so glad you have your family at home together for a while. Love, Laura & Frank